- Health advice
- Sep 12, 2017
September 14th is RUOK Day
A simple but important question: RUOK?
Asking someone how they are could be the difference between the depths of despair or getting them the help they need, because you took the time to care. Some people can feel so troubled that they may even be suicidal. Asking RUOK?' can make a difference. Mr Vitamins is committed to supporting all aspects of yours, your family's and your friends' health.Reach out to others...
It's not difficult to offer a friendly ear. Just follow the steps below and you'll find it easy to help somone in need. For more information and to learn how you can get involved in this valuable program, go to RUOK.How to ask 'R U OK?'
You don’t have to be an expert to support someone going through a tough time. You just need to be able to listen to their concerns without judgment and take the time to follow up with them. Below are some simple steps to start a conversation.1. Ask R U OK?
- Start a general conversation; preferably somewhere private
- Break the ice with a joke
- Build trust through good eye contact, open and relaxed body language
- Ask open–ended questions
2. Listen without judgement
- Guide the conversation with caring questions and give them time to reply
- Don’t rush to solve problems for them
- Help them understand that solutions are available when they’re ready to start exploring these
3. Encourage action
- Summarise the issues and ask them what they plan to do
- Encourage them to take one step, such as see their doctor
- If they’re unsure about where to go to for help, help them to contact a local doctor or the Employee Assistance Program (EAP)
4. Follow up
- Put a note in your diary to call them in one week. If they’re desperate, follow up sooner
- Ask if they’ve managed to take that first step and see someone
- If they didn’t find this experience helpful, urge them to try a different professional because there’s someone out there who can help them
Dealing with denial?
- If they deny the problem, don’t criticise them. Acknowledge they’re not ready to talk
- Say you’re still concerned about changes in their behavior and you care about them
- Ask if you can enquire again next week if there’s no improvement
- Avoid a confrontation with the person unless it’s necessary to prevent them hurting themselves or others
What if you think the person is considering suicide?
If you’re worried that someone you know is doing it tough or having suicidal thoughts, it’s important that you give that person an opportunity to talk about it. Find a quiet and private space to ask them how they’re feeling and whether they’ve had any thoughts about suicide. Speak in a calm, confident and non-judgmental manner to help them feel supported and reassured. If someone says they’re thinking about suicide, it’s important you take it seriously. Tell them that you care about them and you want to help. Don’t become agitated, angry or upset. Explain that thoughts of suicide are common and don’t have to be acted upon. It’s also essential that you determine whether they’ve formulated a plan to take their life. Ask if they’ve decided how they’ll kill themselves or if they’ve begun to take steps to end their life. If they have, it’s critical that you do NOT leave them alone and do NOT use guilt or threats to prevent suicide. Even if someone says they haven’t made a plan for suicide, you still need to take it seriously. Lack of a plan does NOT guarantee their safety. Get immediate professional help or call emergency help lines – such as Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 – for advice and support. People who are thinking about suicide may signal their suicidal intentions to others. In other cases, there may be no warning. It’s therefore critical that you regularly engage with family, friends and colleagues and provide them with the attention and time to ask them how they’re going.What if I can’t speak to them face-to-face?
- Use the same 4 steps above and talk to them over the phone
- Avoid calling from a noisy place or whilst traveling
- If they’re in a rush, make a time to call them back
- Remember that they can’t see your face, so it’s important to verbally indicate your support
Can I use social media?
- Social media is a great way to share personal tips and information on coping strategies and wellbeing tips (visit our facebook.com/ruokday for examples)
- Send positive messages but avoid publicly commenting on how someone’s coping
- Encourage a conversation over the phone or in person by suggesting a time to catch up
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